While I haven’t finished my journey with Jake yet, I am at an important milestone – my 40th birthday party. Fitter and healthier than I have been in a long time and with some lovely toned muscle structure coming through as the fat disappears.
Above is my ‘before picture’, it’s not very clear but that’s a good indication of how I feel when I am fat: unworthy of and unable to be in the picture – on every level you can interpret that sentence. If I absolutely have to be in a picture I have a big shawl or a set way I pose to try and hide. This one was taken unawares – and it survives I don’t know how! I usually make everyone delete the fat ones… If I’d known how it was going to turn out I’d have taken a before one – but I just couldn’t bear to see where I was, or face the reality.
I have said this all the way through this process: this is by far the sanest and easiest way I have ever lost weight. I have been a successful dieter all of my life and have spent great chunks of it fit, slim and healthy on the outside, but always achieved through allowing calorie counting, starvation (eating = failure) and long sessions exercising to take over my life.
I just could not sustain this – I have a job, a husband who works long hours and two children whom I am the main career and taxi driver for, and over the last two years my weight has ballooned. A back problem has not helped the issue.
Jake has taught me so much about something which I thought I knew about already. He showed me a way of eating and exercising that maximizes results but doesn’t take over your life. He has tailored the program around my back issue. There are days when my exercise takes literally 12 minutes, and days when the weights program takes 45, I have eaten out with my family and friends, I have had to carve some time out of my day for exercise but not to the detriment of my work or family commitments, I have in effect led my normal life without feeling deprived or – most importantly- hungry. I have never, once, been hungry. In fact there are times when I have had my husband awake at night anxious that this couldn’t possibly work because I was over eating. I come from a place where hungry = excitement and weight loss.
I have not counted one single calorie.
Has this taken discipline? Yes, but in a way that is easy and simple to follow. Have I exercised more than I was? Yes but again in a way that hasn’t taken over my life or exhausted my body.
I have had to deal with the deep psychological attachment I have to numbers on the scale – as I’ve built muscle structure the scales have only moved downwards slowly – with three weeks stuck on one number. BUT – my clothes were looser and people were commenting.
I have found this incredibly difficult to deal with and a lesson in how much I revolve my happiness around a number. I have cried with frustration at the overwhelming desire to get on the scales a few hours after weighing myself. It is almost like a drug. Jake -and my Husband – have dealt with the tears admirably.
But, despite the numbers refusing to budge there are clothes I can fit in now that I know would be too small at my current weight – but they fit beautifully, which means I am as slim as I was, but the muscle I’ve built is showing on the scales. I still have a long way to go to let this issue go, but I am working on it!IMG_1525
I am very proud today to be able to tell you that I haven’t a clue how much weight I have lost – last weigh in was twenty pounds lost and that was three weeks ago – I just know that my ‘marker jeans’ were looser today than last week.
I still have a way to go before I reach my ultimate goal, but for the first time I can see a way of living that is sustainable, while still keeping my weight down, fitness up and back strong.
Anyone reading this testimonial should know that I am happy to talk about this process anytime just ask Jake for my email. If you’re lucky enough to be in Hollywood get in touch with Jake. I assure you that wherever you are, if he can change my way of being, he can change yours.
I will forever be grateful to Jake for the kindness, wisdom, generosity and knowledge he has shoveled liberally at me night and day answering my texts over food questions and keeping a close eye on my progress. He is an inspiration to me, and will be to you, I cannot recommend him to you more warmly or confidently, you are in good hands.